Costly Comparison

Walk out on the street. What do you see? Everything outside of me. What I am compared to you. What I lack next to you.
walkinhWe walk a path and come to be, comparing ourselves against everybody.

What we hear
What we know
What we see
Billboards and Facebook scenarios.

“You can be better — You should live like this”
Everything screams comparison. Til there is no room left for us…

We all want the world to see, what I decide for it to be.

Love, life, glory & achievements.
Disappointment, rants, trolling and sadness.
Consistently drawing attention away from what we need in actuality.

ponderingIt begs the question;
Why not start by being kind
– to the face looking back at me.
– to the person I am yet to be.
– to the soul mate who deals with my highs and lows.
– to the friend who may genuinely need my help.

What we give out we get. If you can’t accept yourself. How do you begin to love someone else?
Who we are, what we become. Starts with an acceptance of the darker part of ourselves.

Be kind
Be true
Be a light in the darkness
Choose hope
Choose love
You are perfect.

Be kind
Be true… To you…

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Mix it up

Hamster Getting a Workout on Spinning WheelNearly everything we do is habit. Wake up, get dressed, go to work, come home, go to sleep – repeat. Only 40 – 45% of our daily thinking is conscious. What we eat, how we dress. Most of our decisions are unconscious. Habits.

I don’t know about you but I have always gotten a little bored by the idea of ‘ground hog day’. Nothing puts a dint in my spirit more than getting on the spinning wheel and getting told to run pointlessly without reason – because someone else said that it was just ‘what you do’. Normal, yuk. Following the same daily pattern with no real end goal in mind.

What happened to me this morning was small but significant enough to spark a feeling of satisfaction. So, what happened to me this morning?
I mixed it up!
My usual routine on the way to the office took a slight turn and I found myself in a new alley way grabbing my morning cup of coffee Mix it up Coffee spots(habit) but with a different set of teeth smiling back at me! A refreshing change of connection and unfamiliarity.

In essence, what I didnt realise my spirit was craving – was a new experience! As small and insignificant as it may sound, it still gave me a huge sense of gratification.
In your own home town, in your own world, without travelling overseas or taking a holiday – you can create new experiences everywhere you go, every day. Make it a new habit of creating new experiences everywhere you go and you will never be stuck in the spinning wheel.
It’s a choice!
Meet new people.
Ask those people new questions.
Find out more about others and you will find out more about yourself.

It’s such a beautiful world we live in but as I look around me, I see death. I see people who have adjusted to someone else’s rules about their life. I see a conviction of depression and hopelessness. What a deceptive perception. We are never stuck to press repeat on our lives until the day we die or retire.
We can Mix it up!! – turn your comfort zone on its head.
Find yourself.
Re-create yourself.
Say hello to a stranger. Smile.
It’s the small things that you do that make the biggest difference. Mix it up!!!

recreate hope

 

 

Inertia – Break the Barriers

hit a wallEver felt like you hit a wall?
Tired… Frustrated… Completely over thinking about what it was that made you get started in the first place?
Ever thought to yourself – it would be so much easier to throw this in the ‘too hard’ basket. Things aren’t that bad anyway. Why would I need to change my circumstances…..

Yep, I’ve been there too!

But lets stop for a moment to think about this so-called ‘wall’ that I had been faced with… There was no physically presence. I couldn’t touch it. It was only felt – Ahhh! Ok, It was just emotional.
I could work with that!

So in conclusion; the wall I was experiencing was not a wall at all! It was merely a new area of existence within my own spirit that I was yet to explore…  AND if I took another few steps back….. it was actually coming to the edge of its borders. The end of its existence. Creating new habits for myself was tiring because it was redoing everything within me that I had been doing for the last 27+ years!

You see; (I had come to realise that) By default, my unconscious behaviors try to keep me where I am at. What I had really come up against is a simple scientific law of physics; I hit my inertia.

Inertia comes from the Latin word iners, meaning idle, sluggish.
The principle of inertia is one of the fundamental principles of classical physics that are used to describe the motion living_in_a_bubbleof objects and how they are affected by applied force. Or lack there of for that matter.

Newton’s First Law of Motion states that an object not subject to any net external force moves at a constant velocity. Thus, an object will continue moving at its current velocity until some force causes its speed or direction to change.

How interesting this new discovery was to me!
In a microwave generation that we live in. Everything evolves so quickly around us that we expect a matter of success to be the same. We want our goals NOW. We want to have a new car NOW. A new house. A better work / life balance. Why? Because I read a book that said the law of attraction says that if we think about it – it will happen! RUBBISH!
Our world might be changing but the laws of the universe were forever printed in the stars.

So yes,
Things take TIME to change.
It requires EFFORT
It means we wont always FEEL like it.
working hardIt means there will be times when we want to QUIT
& You better believe that YOU WILL BE TESTED to make sure you are worthy of the things that you are going after.

Why?
Because our basic instinct is to return to the space from which we came. Our comfort zone of laziness & to be honest with you – insignificance.

But hold tight, because the miracle is a few more steps into your discovery.
When we learn that the law of resistance is a good thing. Then there is nothing to stop us moving forward.

Break the barriers.
Break the motion that you are stuck in.
Break the inertia that is holding you where you are at!
Keep. Moving. Forward.
Until the momentum of your actions breaks the inertia! Leaving it with no choice but to follow the direction is which you are going.

Here’s to Living a Life of Significance!
With Love, Express

Absence of Resistance

In a world that tells you;4.2.3
Hold tight.
Protect your rights.
If you want it, be prepared to fight.

How free would we be… If we just let go.
Let go of all control, and wonder.
Just to be; like a stream that has no need to take demands from the breeze.
It keeps flowing down the river, no resistance…. Just peace.

Not opposing the strong.
We can all take notes from those who have weathered the storm;
It’s the resistance you experience, to change.
Resistance of your hidden man.
Change creates a window, to see if your worthy of the name.
Worthy of the status you so proudly put in your own way.

armstrong-stream-meander-sml-from-lnpWe are called to step up. Far above our vision can carry.
Innately hearing Gods call – the way is already paved.
Hear the truth;
Or forever justify the pain.
Allowing fears to continually returning us to the space from which we came.

Brothers, Sister, Believers and Curious Seekers;
I hear the call for more, I know its in you. I know you see it too….
Why resist when it’s for the benefit of us all?

 Celebrate, the Absence of Resistance.

Igniting the Passion

Where does Passion come from?
Why do some people have a zest for life whilst others compose a state of exhaustion from every day living?passion
How do we live with passion?

Vital questions that get you living a life by design rather than by default.

Design – (noun) a specification of an object, manifested by an agent, intended to accomplish goals.

Default – (noun) in the absence of opposition or a better alternative.

So there you have it! Default and design consist of one little difference. Goals!
The intention of writing down what it is you want. Let me draw a little more attention to the last two words of the last sentence – YOU.WANT.

Not, what others want from you or what your parents intended for you. No, what you want. Your specific gifts and passions in life which come alive when you take the time out every day to meditate on them. 

eg.
Serve
Create
Inspire
Love
Focus
Build
Preach
Teach

Whatever it may be for you ! Write them all down and look at them every day.
Go over them to really see (not just look at) what is within your heart. You see, everyone’s answers will be different. So if you can feel them as they move from pen to paper, then they can manifest into your reality. (It’s already within you to do so)
There are plenty of distractions out there turning you away from your calling; 

TV
Radio
Work
Music
Traffic
Billboards
Internet
FACEBOOK! (Argh!)

It is so easy to lose focus! There is a million things a day trying to take your focus and put it onto theirs.
So be bold! Be deliberate in focusing on the matters of your heart as much as you can get distracted by the next thing.

I happen to be doing mine right now!
Curled up with a bunch of feather blankets on an overcast day, pillows supporting my head and laptop cradled closely on my stomach as my fingers allow the rhythm of my heart to do the typing… Passion! It is created by doing the things that make you most happy. Most at peace.

So, how is it that we lose that passion? … By living out someone else’s dream & goals.

Depression – severe, typically prolonged, feelings of low spirits from loss of hope or courage.

When its hard to find the courage to face the day, generally it comes down to a series of days when you haven’t been living authentically for yourself. Life gets much easier once we reach out and take a risk on ourselves. No, it is not selfish. Selfishness is the inability to be happy for someone who has found peace in their life because you haven’t found yours.

So how can you ignite the passion?
writingStart by finding 20 min to sit down and ask yourself – what do I want my life to look like?

The answers we seek are already within us….

Much Love & Peace xo

Mind Matters

hard workoutFor those of you that have ever had the privilege of a one-on-one personal training session / boot camp / crossfit style workout, you would be aware of the fact that the mind has a habit of quitting a thousand times over before the body will.
I personally have experienced this many times over! Before I even head out the door (especially on a rather cold day), my mind is telling me to quit. It takes a real discipline to keep going sometimes. To shut off all conversations in your head convincing you why you should not go and continue in the abyss of why you got started in the first place.

Spending an intensive 10 days in Fiji that only served liquid meals for the first 4 days – made me appreciate this aspect from a totally different level. How sensitive we are to what we think we know about life.

The stories we tell ourselves that restrict us from truly moving forward carrying the weight of;
I would, but…
I wish I could, but..
I am just not…

Our “I Am” statements, that allow us to quit before the journey has even begun. Who do you tell yourself you are? As soon as you look into the mirror to wash your face. We all pause and stare intensely at the slightly puffy reflection standing before us.MirrorReflection
I am …
The most important 3-5 words you can start the day off with.
My question to you; Are they encouraging or are they demeaning?

Are you setting your day off on a high or loosing your grip before the day has even begun?


Chances are, (if your anything like me) some of the stories you tell yourself need to change. I learnt this in my 10 day trip across the big blue. I wasn’t demoralising myself, but I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I was too passive in my approach to who I was going to be each day. If not for the benefit of myself, than for those around me.

I put it to you my friends,  Go write it on your mirror who you want to be daily. Make it a must to live a glorious life, not just one that goes with the motions. We are called for so much more (if you have the courage to live it full-out).

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I am a Warrior
I am Strength
I am Courage
I am a Leader

Who do you really want to be?

With purpose, Express

Simple… But Never Easy

I woke up this morning; Just on the other side of an event I have been shamelessly obsessedregistration with for the past few months… Emotionally, I experienced so many ups and downs (on a day to day basis).  Swerving and dodging to many contributing factors while ultimately holding onto my message that I wanted to present to this group of women.

When I woke up; I couldn’t help the humbling feeling of gratitude.

So much time has passed since I myself, felt hopeless and lost in the world. I wasn’t always wanting to empower others. I could barely even hold myself together let alone, carry any sort of message forward.
I remember most of all (during what would of been the darkest time in my life), putting a sign that really spoke to me that said…

“Life is Simple, but no one ever said it was to be easy”

At that point, what that phrase meant to me was; “What are you doing to get back on your feet this morning?”. Surrounded by people that enabled my behaviours to cover their own…  Also featuring many (many!) regrettable mornings from acting like a fool to impress people that I shouldn’t of cared for.
What this phrase meant to me back then was; forget the repetitive mistakes I was making and pick myself up one more time and carry on to the best of my ability.

girl on a beach soul searchingNow, with about 4 years distance between those moments. Mixed with a spice of soul searching and a renewed journey of love for myself and those around me – what this means to me NOW is;
No matter what life throws at me, I will persevere.

You see, no matter where you are in your life. If you are going through a steep learning curve, or barely hanging on. This rule will keep you in good stead because life is not easy – for anyone.
At different times in our life we get hit unexpectedly with circumstances. We are born into difficulties. World wide we see poverty, war, racism, discrimination…
Its not the circumstance that makes the man, its the way he views it.  Just remember why you are doing the things you are doing on a daily basis for & you can conjure the energy to put one more step in front of the other.

Are you simplifying? Or complicating?

Take a birds eye view and try and relay a few simple rules for what you are wanting to get out of today. If all you need to do today is;

Walk outsideGo for a walk and get out of the house – than go for a walk.
If you need to go to work – than go to work.
If you need to study for an exam – than study.
If you need to get more clients for your business – than go meet some people.
If you need to learn to forgive – than start learning from those who have had to as well.

The end result of these simple activities is where the difficulty may arise, but I promise you – it is more difficult to think about it than to actually do it.

So whatever you have planned for your life remember this one thing “Life is Simple, but no one ever promised it to be easy”

With Love,

xo

Empowered Entrepreneurial Women Karina McKenna