Allow yourself to make mis-takes
Posted by: Karina on: 26/08/2011
Looking back is never as bad as looking forward. Probably because looking back, you know you have 100% certainty as to what you’re looking back at!
Yes! The new chapter of my life has indeed begun and I am happy to report that so far, the best lesson God has graciously shown me was this:
Allow yourself to make mistakes.
How I learnt this lesson you may ask? Would you believe – in traffic – lost – freaking out – lost – fretting – LOST – had a GPS in the
car – still lost!
As I found myself screaming in one ear, echoing through to the next. I heard the smallest whisper, the gentlest voice, with the strongest string pulled upon my heart saying:
Allow yourself to make mistakes…. How else will you learn if you don’t?
How true is that voice of greater reasoning… While I was running around, making a mess of the journey at hand – the real purpose was to acknowledge what does not work so I could move faster onto what does. The more I got frustrated with myself in an unknown position, the more I regressed.
“The true test of character is not how much we know how to do, but how we behave when we don’t know what to do”
- John W.Holt, Jr
The most ironic part of this lesson is that I had the previous quote sitting in my wallet for the last year and it only made the distance from my head to my heart when I experienced a few days again.
Law of attraction? Coincident? Or Divine timing? Which ever you believe to be true. I want to impress on you the importance of being able to make mistakes. Simple, careless and easy to learn from mistakes. We are here to learn about ourselves, to grow together and to support each other when times are tough…. Mistakes are the difference between knowing what’s wrong & right to feeling what’s wrong & right.
Mistakes help you make the distance from the head to the heart. Why not acknowledge a few you are experiencing within this moment and let your heart feel, know and accept your truth as to what is right & what is wrong.
Like this:
My Question to You…
Posted by: Karina on: 14/08/2011
It’s that time again. Growth versus uncomfortability. Time to move onto the next chapter of my life…
However, before the natural flow of pathological positivity takes place, there is a small voice of reasoning bickering (that little bird upon my shoulder) that forces to Question…
Just what is the next chapter?
Then shortly followed is an un-nerving feeling that this time, I may have to pick up a pen and start writing it on my own.
God knows, he is on my side throughout this journey but apart from a change of scene – seriously, what comes in the next chapter? I am asking you this time – the reader, the subscriber, my friend – to please tell me.
How did you write your next chapter?…
“Be curious always! For knowledge will not acquire you; you must acquire it.” ~Sudie Back
Like this:
Part 1
Posted by: Karina on: 02/08/2011
- In: Other inspirations | Poem
- 7 Comments
I really felt the warm glow of it tonight. The gratitude of life! How far I have grown. Picturing that moment when the seed was first sown, all but a year and a half ago. I was watered, supported and lengthened to the end degree . I was clasped into a tight hold until they moulded an outline of who I could be. Tonight I had a realisation that I made it through the soil. Tonight I started to memorize that wonderful time that I first fought my inner turmoil – and found sunlight. Before I knew it, this little seed started to grow on its own. The seed my dearest readers – was FAITH.
I never understood the concept of faith, when my life was consumed by pity and accusations. I never chose to look inside to find the reality that life wasn’t the problem. Self was. I never wanted to believe that I had something to do with all these bad events that kept occurring. But once again – self was. I never had faith… Faith in myself, faith in others, faith in love…. I chose to wonder the world alone, attracting only similar kinds of alone. Freedom was escaping my head for a weekend only to find it throbbing 100 times more the next morning. That, my dearest readers, is not really living.
Consumed by the dark side, I had no light to shine. Until I figured out that this life had to be played inside the side line. A lead role I had to play, the curtain call could be saved for another day. I took a chance to look inside and what I found was past my expectancy line. I found faith. I found courage. I found a voice. I found a heart. I found eyes to see. I found freedom to be.
Your probably wondering, why this story has coincided with a rhyme and a story? Truth be told, I feel like I am no longer controlling the loyalties. My branches are growing, my talents entwining. Dearest readers, this is only the beginning…
Like this:
What It Means To Be Free
Posted by: Karina on: 27/07/2011
- In: Poem
- 5 Comments
What does it mean to be free?
It means you can dance.
It means you can dare to cry outside the knowing eye.
It means you can love another, even while they’re still living a lie.
It means you can laugh.
It means you can hold an outstretched hand.
It means you can choose to be outspoken, without threatening your fellow lad.
Freedom is a choice.
We have the right to be free.
Beggers welcome to withstand
For within your right.
You are given a righteous hand.
Stand tall. Be your all.
Freedom is calling.
The choice is yours!
Like this:
Those Magical Words that Say ‘I’
Posted by: Karina on: 25/07/2011
I’m Sorry.
I was wrong.
Your right.
Lets face it, these phrases are not uncommon to ridicule in a society that has fought for their own rights, beliefs, rules and regulations. If everybody thinks they are right than everybody must be right… Right?
The power of admitting your faults to another can rebuild relationships that seem far beyond repair. It can also remake an emotionally sheltered wound. By admitting that you have been wrong and having had no ulterior motives – you can assuredly rebuild a bridge that has been broken. Words of the heart connect you to another. We all have senses that can tell sincerity from manipulation. Feeling like you want to remake a wrong is important in communicating to another.
I feel hurt
I feel sad
I feel bad
These ‘feel’ words express the raw emotion to another person as to what is really going on for you. Without the ‘I feel’ statement – you are imposing too much onto the other person. (e.g) “I feel upset because we havent spoken in a while”. As opposed to “You haven’t spoken to me in a while”. Sense the difference?
Choosing these sort of words to reflect your emotions is important in getting the right reaction. Too well I know of the ‘foot in mouth disease’. Where you just cant quite seem to get the words right. I used to have every good intention in the world but I never knew how to take responsibility for my own words and actions. In learning how to curb this behaviour, my relationships around me have curbed with me in a better direction.
If you can relate in some form to this: Try these forms of communication – only reflecting how you feel without doing another persons thinking for them. Take responsibility for the feelings you have and you have alone. No one ever makes you feel a certain way – People never do anything to despite you, then do it for themselves. Once you learn that, you can build stronger relationships at home, in the work place and when creating new relationships in your everyday endeavours.
To understand people is to understand; where you stand in life, where you want to go and how you want to go about it. Communicating in the right way can also get you there quicker and more effectively. Always be more open to learning about what YOU can do rather than what ‘THEY’ have to do.
I feel I have reached the conclusion of my blog post and I wish that all that I have learnt within myself can help many more to come.
Until Next Time – God Bless
Like this:
This is where the ‘Rubber meets the Road’!
Posted by: Karina on: 18/07/2011
Taking Action!! How simple does it sound? How pumped do the words make you feel?! It makes me feel: Excitement, thrill & belief!!
It’s one thing to carefully collect information til you feel the moment is right. But what if the moment never becomes right? Putting ‘Rubber to the road’ was one of my favourite collective quotes over the last weekend. This weekend contained a couple of days worth of inspiration and teachings by the most influential people in the world. Driven, successful and open-hearted winners that have had their shares of up’s and down. Want to know the common denominator?
They all had big dreams that they didn’t just dream about – They made them happen! They brought them to life!
When you put all the aspirations, inspirations and dream building in your head, transfer it to your heart and then get your feet moving to the beat of the music. It’s exciting but! It’s only a matter of time before you gravity forces you to loose momentum – Right? And, when your actions prove to be a little more resistant in real life, another voice pops up expressing forms of disbelief. This part is Wrong! So very wrong…
What rubber to the road meant to me is that I have to just shut up and do it. Live the passion. Stop dreaming about it. Put the foot on the accelerator, expect to come across some bumps, cracks and pierced tires but realise that if you don’t stop in the middle of no where – you WILL reach your destination.
With the help of experienced others (also know as your spare tire) than you are never alone in getting this dream to reality.
Just like learning how to ride a bike, it can be quit daunting at the thought of falling off on your first go. But you know what? It’s only a hard fall when you think about it too much. It only hurts when you start focusing on the gravel. It only bleeds when you forget why you got on the bike in the first place. It only becomes a bad experience when you don’t get back on and prove yourself otherwise.
My question, motivation and point is just this: Are there any dreams or goals that circles your head late at night? What needs to happen to move them into action? Forget the fears of failure, betrayal or disbelief. Dare to Dream! Get dirty! Learn more from life by living it the way you want to live it! Be the difference for yourself, and the world will follow.
Put rubber to the road
Like this:
Young & Free
Posted by: Karina on: 03/07/2011
Are you living young and free?
Is your mind enthusiastic enough to learn new things daily?
Do you allow yourself to make mistakes whilst continuing to pick yourself up after them?
Do you have faith in your heart as a child has faith in their father to be there when they fall?
Are you living with 100% acceptance that what you are doing is right for you & your independent future?
Freedom - The power or right to act, speak, or think as one wants without restraint.
Young - Being in an early period of life, development, or growth.
Young and free is the mind’s capability to be like a child and absorb new information while having the ability to be outspoken when necessary. To live as though there is no tomorrow & making the most out of every given situation. To challenge what you thought you knew and dare to learn from another. A child does not care who it is talking to – it just cares to make human contact. They act as though they need the worlds love – not just their families. They have the freedom to wave and smile and be seen as admirable.
Dare not to be a grown up who is set in his/her ways with his/her insecurities. Just for one day, see how much the world opens up to you.
Dearest readers – Are you young & free?
God can do for you what you CANT do for YOURSELF
Posted by: Karina on: 27/06/2011
Peeps, readers, fellow writers. I cant help but feel an extra amount of passion towards this subject. So many people are whinging and whining as to why God hasn’t done this or done that for them. Things are the same, nothing is happening – why isn’t he listening to me?! Why does God not favor me? News Flash – God loves all people! Because you were created in the image of your creator, he is well aware of the capability that lies within you. He can do for us what we can not do for ourselves.
BUT!!
Faith without works is dead – James 2:14-26.
Translation?
Work your butt off! Test your limits! See how much you ARE capable of! Then, when things start to get tough – Don’t stop! Have faith that God will start to do for you what you can’t do for yourself. He will fill the gabs. Take you to the extreme. He will believe in you when you no longer believe in yourself. Just because he loves you, does not mean he is going to let you sit on your butt and learn nothing! You have to get your hands dirty, fall over, scrape your knee and learn how to get back up.
Trust is vital in every day relationships. Without it, we turn into a broken shell of a human being. The pains of this world can feel like a gloak of trouble – making your physical senses heavy and exhausted. In those times you need to remember that we are not of this world - We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
Enjoy the ups and downs, the emotions, the lessons, your free will. Enjoy life! You have a higher being 
who loves you and will always love you. None of us were a mistake. Put trust in God whilst putting trust in yourself. I know we are all capable of much more than the fear we listen to on the media. Never limit yourself to the worlds ideals and expectations. Change your mind set, change your life. Be the only person you know how to be – but be better at it!
God Bless
Like this:
Hearing the Heart.
Posted by: Karina on: 25/06/2011
Dearest readers, one thing better than writing (for me) is hearing what others have to say. My opinions are merely a collective total of little bits and pieces in which other people have inspired me to write about. Yes, I have my own opinions, emotions, thoughts & actions taken from all of the above. However, the biggest lesson that I have received from all my outside teaching is simply this:
You have to hear the message first rather than the words that describe it.
Everyone has been brought up differently. We have all been taught with different beliefs, defense mechanisms & emotional boundaries. The classic quote of ‘Don’t judge until you have walked a mile in their shoes’ sums it up. We really can’t judge another at all. We never see the heart ache, pains and lessons that have been taught along the way. When you start to get to know another you develop some form of compassion for where they may be coming from – but you never know the full story like they do.
In moments such as these, I enjoy putting the student cap on and letting my mind open to another persons world views and beliefs. This rule of thumb applies so widely to everyday relationships – hearing what’s been said not just the way in which is said. In my humble opinion – Everyone of us came from the loving father that is God. We were all born with these abilities to communicate in our own individual ways and yet we can so easily get mixed up with trying to be understood rather than trying to understand.
Over the past few years I have opened my mind to friendships and people who were exact opposites to me on the outside, but when listened to, were almost similar on the inside. In opening my mind to this new probability, I have become well aware of when the heart is speaking rather than the exterior that is being generically produced. I can see the difference between what’s been taught & the real person within. Everyone’s heart breaks, is prone to anger, jealousy & rage. But we don’t all display the same behaviors in relation to that emotion.
Hear the real message of the heart.
I am not a big sports fan but I am well aware that, when one of my sport fanatic friends inform me of detailed scores n replays – it is their way of including me into their world. I hear that invitation & so I sit to listen to the message. I may not fully understand the words, but I acknowledge it.
Seek to understand your fellow-man and give them the time of day to understand who you are. When the heart talks over the head, it is such a beautiful moment that it can feel like heaven on earth. Everyone’s life is a search for some form of understanding – a place to belong. Why not give somebody else that benefit today. You must give to receive. Seek to understand the real message, from the heart – Not just the delivery – And not just seeking to find out how it affects you. Seek to understand the real person inside….
Like this:
Never settle. Be better..
Posted by: Karina on: 24/06/2011
We are all worthy of a standard that we shouldn’t go any lower than. Whether that be in business, in relationship or personal development. If you have set a certain standard for yourself, NEVER doubt yourself enough to lower that.
A ‘standard’ can be a boundary in which you set for yourself for the benefit of your well-being. For example, it can be your style: what 
you will, and what you won’t wear. What you believe you are worthy of receiving financially in the work place. Who you will and won’t trust in order to express your inner most feelings. How much you can cope with, emotionally in everyday circumstances.
Your standards are the outline in which you stand for. What you know as personal boundaries and lines of protection to your inner being.
The reason I speak of such things is due to a job that I took on all but a few months ago. I saw it as an easily picked up opportunity that would suit my lifestyle nicely. After battling out the first week, I was informed of the low (somewhat illegal) pay rate. The immediate, rather offended reaction that came forth first, was to leave. This was not fitting to my standard at all! But something held me back… I felt a little confused and unsure of myself by the shock of this news, especially seeing as though I had already worked a full week for them. It felt as though this wasn’t just my pay rate – this was my worth on offer. My self-confidence was surely a miss in order for me to walk out the door. I was lacking the posture to tell these people that hired me, that I was worth more than what they had on offer. So, I took the hard, bitter & broken road and agreed to settle for less.
This followed on to be the most intense emotional couple of months. I despised the fact that it had come to this. I felt trapped in my own self pity. (Big no no!) In lacking my self-worth worth due to my own actions – I lost my passion for life. I felt no better than this measly $14 an hour job (before tax) that I was residing in.
This went on for a few months… Until, one day, I decided to make a break from the coast. I took the time to clear my head for a weekend away and I felt a ‘shift’ back into consciousness. I realised -I was making myself miserable! In the beautiful city that was Melbourne, I started to feel the difference between genuine joy and the sacrifice I had back home.
So I gave my notice last week… (*clears throat* WOOOOOO HOOOOOOOO!!!)
I feel rejuvenated, alive and back in tune with myself. I have more energy to spread joy and love into my life and into the lives of others. I have a message!! That message today being: Never, ever, ever, EVER settle for less than your worth! You are worth more than the standard you originally set for yourself anyway. Why go lower? Its time to aim at the stars and pursue a passionate life. As the good lord says “Go forth and multiply!’
Multiply the people you interact with a smile and a genuine heart. Be 100% present in you, so you can give that 100% to help another. Never settle for less than you believe yourself to be, because then you WILL receive less than you deserve. Have faith that there is a better way. Have faith in you! In God! In the Love of the universe for each and every individual person. Including the people who try to take away your self-worth. They can only try. Never doubt yourself enough to let them.
God Bless
